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The good and the bad
May 9th
My economic recovery deposit arrived this morning. First thing I did was hand Ginnie $100. She’s been great about not asking Mom for money so I thought of her first.
Second, I bought my ticket for Jonathan Coulton on Thursday night. The plan is to attend machinegirl‘s recital and go from there. I can’t wait!
The Ex has been filling her head again. More shit about the car and how I need to catch up on the payments (I am, thankyouverymuch) and I should be giving her the child support checks and that she file to be an independent minor. The man is stupid. Child support has been explained to him numerous times and he refuses to understand it. Get over it asshole.
So I ask her:
If you’re an independent minor, where are you going to live? I don’t have to support you anymore, right? Your father has a one-bedroom apartment so you can’t move in with him and he HATES your boyfriend. What kind of advice is that to suggest you move out so he doesn’t have to pay child support anymore? You want to be independent? You’ll have to pay rent if you stay here.
Seriously! I try try try not to disparage him in front of the kids but he doesn’t hesitate at all to slam me sideways. It’s frakking difficult to explain where he’s wrong without using a snarky tone of voice. And I usually tell her to ask any other parent out there, that way it’s not just my word against his. Why must I always take the high road?
Grrrrr
Shitty with a side order of crap.
Apr 14th
Meet the newest member of our little menagerie family:

I’ve been nagging Ginnie to get rid of her stupid mice. The smell is bad enough but the occasional reports of one or the other getting loose were the proverbial straw. So she’s decided to get this stupid snake and it can EAT the mice. Sneaky girl thinks that way she gets to have both. Considering the mice are too large for the baby snake to eat yet, I’m thinking mice flush fairly easily, right? Or should I make her take them to the field down other end of the street and let nature take over?
Max is going to be pissed. He tried to convince me to allow him a snake for years. Different kid, different house, different place in my life. No, Ginnie’s not spoiled. Two rules:
1. She had to have a back-up place to put the snake if I decided it had to go.
2. It gets lose once, it’s gone. No second chances. Period.
I’m so down I didn’t even get dressed today. I’m tired of being broke all the time. I’ve budgeted enough to get through this week but I should get a CS deposit on Friday. And then I called Wells Fargo today to give them my new phone number – because I’m nice stupid efficient that way and I had to do the runaround with the woman who answered the phone. Eventually I’m passed on to the supervisor who actually listens and checks the files and agrees that we all have a plan and I’m “getting there” and I’m done. But the peons who answer the phone never let me talk to the supervisor until they get fed up with my supposed bullheadedness. Bite me people. My answer is always always “this is what I can do and if that’s not good enough come take the car.” They don’t want the car.
I’ve painted a bit more but I’m stalled until I can get a ladder. Mike was right, they’re around $30 at Home Depot so I should just buy one. On my stepladder and on my tippy-toes I’m a couple inches short of reaching the ceiling. I can’t tape off so even putting the paint roller on the end of a pole doesn’t help. Not to mention the idiots who design never seem to keep in mind proper edges. There should be lines . . . long walls that go from one room to the next . . . pain in the ass.
I suppose I should get in the shower. I have a “female” doctor appointment at the VA tomorrow. Joy.
I'm so sick
Mar 2nd
Twice today, and the rest of the morning spent feeling like there’s more.
I don’t know if it’s something I had ate last night. I had the same thing as 4 other people (chicken boxty) and later a slice of french silk pie.
Or I could just have something else going around. Who knows.
Ginnie went back to the doctor this morning about her face. She’s got an appointment with a family practice guy on Wednesday so we can stop paying these urgent care fees. He told her the same thing as last week.

Poor kid. She’s handling it well, though. Now that people have quit teasing her about it.
And there’s more pictures of Kira on her Kollage. http://tinyurl.com/25lgrw
humpday
Feb 13th
Nip/Tuck season finale is next week already.
The Riches starts up March 18th.
No call on my car. I took it in on Jan 18th, they started working on it the 25th, added more work on the 4th and told me it would be ready by Monday or Tuesday this week. It be late Wednesday night, y’all.
Babysat the Screech today. Hung out with my friend Jamie for a bit. Tried to nap.
My friend E made me cry a little. I miss hanging with him.
Oh yeah. Pissed me off moment. So Ginnie’s been bugging me from school. Sending “I’m so bored” texts and stuff. She wants to take tomorrow off school just because she’s so far ahead in every class (pretend you hear that in a whiny exasperated voice) and she’s sooooo bored. Uh, no. I felt the same way when I was her age which is why I read. Carry a book. Save your days in case you actually, you know, NEED them later. Then she calls me later to remind me it’s her father’s birthday tomorrow – like being with the man for over 30 years I’d forget – and he says he’ll call her out of school so they can spend the day together. Go to breakfast and then the moooooovies or something. Grrrrrr. Okay, he’s attempting to spend time with her so parenting points +5, but letting her out of school for it gives him parenting points -10. Loser.
Another proud mommy moment
Feb 8th
Ginnie was whining yesterday afternoon that her friend Ashley will turn 18 in time to vote this election and she won’t. And that Ashley doesn’t give a crap about politics and she does. Ginnie wants to vote! Unfortunately she doesn’t turn 18 until November 15th.
I’m supposed to peruse the rules and find out if there’s any way she can register early and get some special dispensation to vote and have it count. I sincerely doubt it.
I haven’t asked her who she wants to vote for yet. She seemed surprised about who I’m thinking about choosing. Actually, I don’t investigate much into politics until closer to the last vote. I’ll let those who care more than I filter through them all.
Her boyfriend is old enough to vote, but doesn’t care and is probably not who intelligent people would want voting anyway. He’d likely pick by who had the shortest names so he wouldn’t have to read them. I told her to get him registered and tell him to vote the way she wants.
The Religious in the Hands of an Angry Atheist
Jan 30th
“Heath Ledger chose to promote the vile sin of sodomy in defiance of God’s law. No one made him play a faggot cowboy in “Brokeback Mountain”. No one made him kiss another man, in a flagrant attempt to further desensitize not only americans but Bible-illiterate fools the world over to the filthy depravity that is faggotry. He chose to do that all on his own. He could have used that bully pulpit he has to promote the cause of God and truth instead. God has repaid him to his face for his filth. Thank God for His Justice. All who flaunt God’s law can expect the same. Amen.” (Pastor Phelps, Westboro Baptist Church).
This is a perfect example of why I am an atheist. Religion is a plague. It infects our schools, our government, and is fighting a losing battle against the science community. This infestation causes me to write a sermon in a public school. Entire religions are based on one book of fiction. I don’t believe there is an entity that gives one iota, whether you blow up the WTC, or win the Super Bowl. I resent that people hand over their personal responsibilities on a silver platter to “God”.
You believers have brought more destruction on this Earth than natural disasters. Do you remember the Inquisition? Religion is like a white board, you can rewrite or erase anything you don’t like. What about the Jihad? You have consistently hunted, tormented, drowned, tortured, and/or sacrificed anyone who believed differently, like a plague for which there is no vaccine. You’re like bees, you suck up the nectar out of somebody’s life, then convert them into your honey. For example, you Roman Catholics spent years persecuting the Jews. And you Puritans found delightful ways to rid yourselves of people who you thought were witches.
If you can’t all follow one religion, (which we know will never happen) you need to, at the very least, be more accepting to those who do not feel or believe the same way as you. If “God” accepts people the way they are, why do you have to convert nonreligious people? Build on your strengths like community service, social gatherings, music and art, and leave the hate behind. There are positives in religions, but they do not outweigh the negatives. Take after the Amish, live your belief without hypocrisy and stop trying to convert everyone else.
All this hate can only result in world destruction. Who decides the best religion; who is the winner? If extraterrestrials came to visit us, would you still believe in “God”? If Jihads don’t kill us all, who is to say that some other person, entity, or religion won‘t bring the end to us all? What happens if someone like Pastor Phelps got his hands on a nuclear bomb? Don’t you think that would finally make us all the same… dead?
Ginnie Walker
I are stupit
Jan 20th
Ginnie and I decided to be spontaneous and jump in my loaner car and drive down by the river because she wanted to take some pictures and I wanted to get some fresh air.
Weekendy schtuff
Dec 10th
Friday night Casey stayed over. Actually the whole weekend. Anyway, I went to Tempe to pick him up and we went to Ginnie’s restaurant for dinner (yuk) and then out to try and find the kid some shoes she can’t take off every 3 minutes and he and I jackets. I have a pretty heavy flight jacket but this time of year I need layers of lighter clothes. No luck on that hunt.
Saturday morning we got up and we went to a couple of stores and found THE cutest boots for Kira. No, we don’t generally need boots here in AZ, but these were the only things without Velcro we could find in her size. That girl has figured out Velcro. Velcro is LAME. And I found a zippered hoody of my own so I can stop wearing Ginnie’s Shady one cuz I’m just to old to pull off wearing a Slim Shady jacket effectively.
Kira was not fond of the crappy WalMart Santa. Better luck next time. Oh, and I loaded a few more pics on flickr in Kira’s set.
We picked up Eliza (machinegirl) and went to the studio. Casey and Kira came in for a moment and then he took the Kira to see her Mother while we did Wingin’ It. Seriously GREAT show. Very funny.
Anyway, it was reported that the Kira-Mommy visit went well. No fighting, just discussion and we might do the whole thing again next weekend. Eliza got a ride home from someone else (I hope) and we stopped for Pizza in Tempe and came home. Casey futzed around with Kira and after she went to bed he went out with friends.
Sunday? More just hanging out and finally they left and I got some housekeeping done. I’m trying to stay off the computer so much.
That was fun /sarcasm
Nov 30th
I did manage to get through most of my errands. It has been sprinkling or outright raining ALL DAY. What a lot of fun standing with my ass in the rain getting that child in and out of the car umpteen times. She wasn’t happy, but she really only threw one fit. Poor kid.
Ginnie’s pissed at me because I grounded her. I grounded her last Sunday night because she had that long weekend and never came home to clean up after her stupid dog. I’ve been asking her for weeks to beg/borrow/rent a carpet cleaner because her stupid dog URINATES on the stairs and my apartment STINKS. I’m embarrassed to have people over and it’s just not healthy. I do take him out when she’s gone overnight and various other times but he doesn’t seem to understand NOT to pee all over the stairs. She doesn’t take him out enough. AND those damned mice stink too.
But I’m “ridiculous” because I grounded her and because we had ONE NIGHT without water, I’m supposed to let her off the grounding because she couldn’t clean the carpet last night. She’s pushing my buttons. If that carpet isn’t cleaned by tomorrow night, she’s going to miss horseback riding on Sunday. Her “life dream” to go horseback riding. Where is this drama coming from? She’s never been grounded before so she doesn’t understand the suck-up-to-Mom-and-she’ll-let-you-off-early lesson her brothers learned early. She hasn’t bothered to do ANYTHING so far.
We’ll have to see how this works out.
Another step in my independence!
Nov 15th
Max is on his way over to take me to get my first tattoo!
I’m so excited. Seriously!
He’s been talking about it but the boy tends to say a lot of stuff and never get around to it. Oh, there will be pictures. He’s even bringing someone to babysit Kira so we don’t have to be distracted.
And my baby girl is 17 today.
I feel like a long-dormant flower that is slowly opening, petal by petal. Happy tears. How corny and maudlin is that?








