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I'm still here!
Nov 13th
My conversations lately with LJ have been eerily similar to my conversations with my father:
M: Hey Dad, what’s up
D: Everything’s fine here, everything okay there?
M: All about the same, everything’s cool.
D: Okay, love ya then, bye!
Seriously, that’s just about how short. He’s not one to waste much time on the phone. I think the longest phone conversation I ever had with him took almost 20 minutes.
Max has called a few times from over there. He tried calling several times the first morning of PodcampAZ and I missed him and carried my (on vibrate) phone in my hand the rest of the weekend hoping he’d try again. The last two attempts were less than satisfactory. Static, cutting in and out and somewhat garbled, not to mention quite late at night. That boy never did understand time zone differences. I gather he’s in finally in Tikrit. They had a two-week stopover in Kuwait for whatever reason, then were supposed to move on to their base over last weekend. He’s got an “over there” cell phone so I now I need to find an international calling card.
Went to a friend’s house for a “we went to London and you didn’t so you have to see our pictures” party Saturday evening. I was really impressed by her Husband’s intensity in presenting the Harry Potter series of vacation shots. He’d apparently spent hours before the trip investigating actual shooting locations and plotting the course and then clipping screen shots from the movies for comparison afterward. Complete with theme music. Very nicely done. I suggested YouTube.
After that, I met another friend and her MIL at a local (crappy) bar and had a great time watching her do Karaoke. Not enough chutzpah to get up and do it myself yet. I may have to practice a couple of songs for next time, just in case I get up the nerve.
Oh oH OHHH, guess where they took the Freelander to get fixed? Seriously! I had to go down there Monday morning to sign off on it. The other guy’s insurance man asked me where I wanted it to go – completely covered – and I suggested the auto body place where Buck works. Yeah, part of me is giggling, but for reals this way I know he’ll make sure it’s all fixed before we get it back. He’s vested in this stupid car loan too and we need it as good as it can get to sell it for as much as possible.
Still ignoring all calls from Wells Fargo. The flunkies on the phone never seem to scroll down to the notes and I got sick and tired of repeating the same lines over and over. As soon as the car is back I’ll call the one specific number I need to. Until then, there’s no law that says I have to answer the phone.
Let’s see . . .
Have spent time with Kira, but I can’t readily find the cable I need to transfer pics from my camera. Silly me didn’t seat the memory card properly last time and all the pics takes since then went to the internal memory instead. Duh.
Ginnie’s mice keep dieing. She’s been getting them from PetCo the last few times because they’re cheaper but pretty soon their hair falls out in chunks and they eventually just lay down and die. She’s supposed to be raising mice for term project in school. Even the snake won’t eat them. It was hilarious watching the snake roam around the bathtub with the damned mouse riding on his back. I should have taken video. Snake was sooo not interested. Unfortunately, now she has to dump or clean everything and start over before winter break. And yes, the kitten is gone. It’s living at boyfriend’s house.
Can’t think of anything else at the mo.
Here, kitty kitty
Nov 6th
Here’s a play-by-play of a phone conversation Wednesday night:
G: Mom, I found a kitten! She’s so cute! Can I keep her?
M: No
G: Just for a little while till I find someplace else for her?
M: No
G: Mom! Please?
M: Your dog will have a fit. You’ll get fleas or worms or the creeping crud from a stray cat, Ginnie.
G: She doesn’t have fleas. And QT will get over it. I just need to find a home for her.
M: No. See if your boyfriend wants her, or your father or Casey. I don’t want another animal in this house! It smells bad enough in here with the menagerie you have now!
G: I’ll come straight home tonight and mop my floors. You won’t even know she’s here. I promise.
M: Absolutely not.
G: Fine, I’ll dump her out in the lot for the coyotes to eat.
M: Cool. Coyotes gotta eat too.
G: You’re so mean.
So I was in my room last night when she came home from work and didn’t hear the damned kitten crying until this morning. Her dog did bark a lot last night, but he does that more now that the windows are open. I get up this morning and she asks me if I have plans or if I’ll be gone all morning.
That way I won’t hear the secret hidden kitten, right? I’m not stupid. Yes, I was gone all morning but after I picked up Kira and then Ginnie and came home we had THE CONVERSATION. Ginnie spent a chunk of money at the dollar store on this stupid cat and by the end of the night, had loaded it all up into her boyfriend’s car. Mean old Mom made her send away her beloved-after-only-24-hours kitten.
The kitten she’d named Xena. She’s been saving that name for something special. All her pets have Xena character names, but she’s always saved Xena for THE PERFECT PET. The snake is Ares. Her mice and gerbils have all had names like Hercules, Joxer, Autolycus, and Callisto.
Stupid cat. Just having near me and having Kira petting it all afternoon I’ve been sneezing and itching.
Good riddance.
I'm officially ringless
Oct 23rd
I gave my daughter my ring today. I only had one left after the divorce. Actually, I hadn’t worn my wedding ring in years (chubby me had to get it cut off at one point) so it was the only ring I wore. I’ve had that ring forever! I can’t remember precisely, I think I got it from my first real boyfriend Randy (Randy is a story for another post) but I loved the ring so much I wore it on my pinkie long after he was gone from my life. You may have noticed it, a pink star sapphire in white gold?
After today’s debacle where my beloved ring EMBEDDED into my skin, I couldn’t wear it. Every so often Ginnie has told me she wants this ring when I die and I’ve always told her she could have it when she turned 18. A mother-daughter thing. Well, I gave it to her today even though her birthday isn’t until November 15th. She swears she’s just “holding” it for me until my finger-skin heals, but . . .
I can’t give her much this year. Why should she wait til I die?
Although, with the way my luck’s been running lately . . .
The month from Hell
Oct 21st
If there really was a Hell, I’d be standing on the edge.
My car died. And I keep getting the same lame-ass phone monkeys when I contact Wells Fargo about what to do now. Could I please speak to someone who can actually READ the notes?
My phone died. Again. This time it just won’t charge or turn on. Eventually I get another replacement, but there was a week there when all text messages and voice mails evaporated.
My rent check got lost – which actually turned out OK, but I had a really angsty week worrying about late fees and stuff. With proof the bank screwed up I’m cool with no late fees. I lurve my landlord.
My son left for his second deployment to Iraq.
My support check is late. So I can’t even get another rental car until that shows up. And the car Ginnie borrowed for 5 minutes to pick me up from the rental place ran out of gas.
Daughter just happened to step outside tonight just as the ex was cruising past our place. I wonder how many times he’s done that! And Ginnie’s met the new girlfriend who was with him. Nice date, cruising past his ex’s apartment.
The program I bought to create the Program Directory for PodcampAZ has been giving me fits. It says I can use any Windows acceptable font, and is supposed to save to pdf but every time I try it I ended up with white text on white background. Finally, after hours of searching help pages for both this stupid program and Adobe, I managed to get it to work. But not on an Adobe reader – there are with X in it at the end of every line. Yet if I open the same pdf with another reader those marks aren’t there. I win?
I have the Evo @ 11 recording Wednesday night, possibly Gangplank‘s podcast too. I have a Podcamp workup on Saturday and I have Jury Duty next Monday.
I cannot WAIT for this month to be over.
Oh Jebus H Criminy Shit
Oct 6th
So Friday morning Casey and I went to this used tire place to get . . . reassurance? He knows a guy who knows a guy and they cut us a break. I’d budgeted $120 for a new tire (for a car I hope to unload pretty damned soon) and ended up paying $25 on a fairly new tire. Except it wasn’t the one “damaged” in my hit-n-run, it was the one on the other side that was so bald there was no tread left. The “damaged” tire we found out was fine once he got it up on a jack. And guess what! My car doesn’t shimmy and grind anymore. For the moment anyway. Now Ginnie can stop angsting about the car.
And here I was thinking I was about $100 bucks up right? No such luck. Ginnie came home from school with a couple of envelopes: one for a class ring and one for her announcements/cap & gown. Order due TODAY. Thanks for the financial warning School people!
On the edge
Oct 1st
I’m seriously thinking about defaulting on this car. I don’t know what else to do. Casey called me today to yell at me to get a new tire. Apparently his father checked it out and there’s a big chunk missing where it was jammed into a strut underneath. Could blow any minute. Fuck.
I got my check today and after paying all my regular bills (except the fucking car payment) I’m left with less than $200. New tire means no birthday present for Kira. New tire means being stuck at home more than I am now. New tire my ass. Car payment will likely be used as a down payment on something else.
Speaking of their father, Ginnie keeps dropping comments that I don’t really want to hear. Only to hope that as long as he’s happier maybe he’ll hate me less and someday we can be in the same room – for the kid’s sakes. She says she wants to ask him for either help getting a car or a new laptop for Christmas. And that he should be able to help her seeing as how his new live-in girlfriend makes big bucks and where could his money possibly be going, etc. I DON’T FRICKING CARE! I don’t ask. It’s none of my business and I don’t want the kids reporting back to him either.
Other than the car, I’ve been having a pretty lucky day. Slept good, great bagel for breakfast, decent sales at the grocery stores, good parking . . . knocking on my wood desk now.
Going to Gangplank tonight to record the Gangplank Podcast and Evo @ 11. I’ve been working on a new intro so we’ll see if Evo likes it. If so, it’ll be on this week’s show. And I’m going hunting for a better word processing/desktop publishing program than MSWorks. Works sucks ass. I’m managing, but I’ve volunteered to do the program for PodcampAZ and I’d like a little more flexibility.
S’all. Mebbe mo laterz.
It puts the lotion on it's skin
Aug 11th
I don’t know if it’s age, or living in Arizona or what, but my skin is so dried out! I’ve always been oily oily and never thought about lotion until the last couple of years.
And I drink enough water to keep a goldfish happy. Constantly! In fact, that’s about all I drink unless I’m actually, you know, drinking.
I’m pretty sure I have a plantar wart on my foot, too. I thought it was just a sore spot where my old sandals rubbed, but it’s not going away. I can’t see that side of (outside right) my foot very well (damned bifocals/fat) but I had one when I was a kid and this feels the same. I wish I could remember how we got rid of it.
Bitch bitch bitch
I received a letter Saturday from the Arizona Department of Leftovers (Revenue) and apparently I have an “abandoned asset” there. So on the off-chance it’s MONEY and just in case showing up rather than mailing in the form means I can pick it up, that’s where I’m headed this morning.
After I drop my baby off at her first day of school. My baby is a Senior! I’m fairly certain this one will actually graduate! She’s on track and doing very well. She’s only 3.5 credits shy of graduating and her classes this year include:
World Literature
Principles of English III
American Government
Econ Principles and Practices
Veterinary Science
Trigonometry – which is a college-credit class
Me so proud.
Guess what she did.
Jul 10th
Let me start with this. I am now the only person in my family that hasn’t been nabbed for doing anything illegal.
I’d left my phone in the other room and she’d called me a dozen times before I heard it ring, and yelled at me when I finally answered. She’s in a police car. Hadn’t been pulled over because she’d already been parked . . . in front of a known drug dealer’s house. Yeah.
“Hey Ginnie, while you’re out getting McDonald’s can you give my buddy a ride over here?”
“Sure!”
“Hey Ginnie, mind stopping at this house up here for a minute? I just need to run inside and pick up something. I’ll be right back. Oh, and hold my stuff.”
I’ll bet you can see where this is going, can’t you?
To be honest, she also had “stuff” of her own. And the cop was very nice and let her come home. He could have arrested her, he could have nabbed the car, he could have been a real dick about it. But he wasn’t. We’re supposed to be notified in a few months about the court date, but “they” might not even follow through because she’s a good kid (usually) and it was only a little “stuff.”
Soooo, I took her car keys and she’s on a short leash for now. Bad judgment for having the stuff with her and in the car, holding for some other asshole she barely knew and not picking up on the “let’s make a dope deal” situation right under her nose. She knows better. And she does know and is accepting responsibility for it. I’m not bailing her out of any of it so she’d better save her money. She’s also not to go over to so-and-so’s house anymore even if he has Halo and Rock Band.
We’d just talked about this sort of thing. How her brother is still trying to get himself out of a similar situation from years ago. How if you’re gonna be stupid and smoke shit in the first place there are risks and how to avoid them. Number one being not sitting in front of a drug dealer’s house cuz the cops usually know exactly where they are.
I mean, teenagers are going to do what they’re gonna do and the best thing is to accept that and guide them to make it all as safe as possible. Get girls on the pill, provide condoms, make sure they know not to drive while impaired and to be in a safe place when they do these things. There’s no use in saying NO and burying your head in the sand. They’re gonna do it anyway behind your back and lie and you lose the chance to communicate.
And she wasn’t impaired. She was prepared for later in the evening when she was done running around for the night. She handled herself well with the officer and didn’t make the situation worse by lying or crying – the crying came later when she got home. She knows. AND she’s going to have to face her father and brothers with this.
Has this all become a right of passage?
There is no spoon
Jun 6th
I teased Ginnie last night because she finally put the clean dishes away. She was actually doing her chore! Yup, she only has one besides taking care of her own space. I just pile clean dishes up on the rack and counter for spite. So last night I was in here on the computer and I could hear her clumping around in the kitchen and the clickety-clack of the dishes being stacked. I wandered in and asked her where the pods were. Pods? Yeah, cuz obviously the pod people have taken over my daughter and replaced her with one that works better. Huh? I guess I missed that gap in her geekucation.
I got up this morning and went to have some cereal and there are no spoons. The brat has hidden them somewhere.
Good thing we have bagels.








