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I’m asking you
Feb 21st
A few weeks ago I posted an update on my niece Brittany, right? So she posted this on Facebook today:
Finally got the test results back from the lab. It is Melanoma in my lung. Although Im scared, Im glad that I finally got the results back so I can start treatment. Hopefully I will be starting treatment tonight or tomorrow and be home by this weekend.
Thank you to all my friends and family that have been coming to see me. You guys keep my spirits high and I love each and every one of you for it. ♥
She’s 23 and this ain’t her first battle. She also had skin cancer at 16 among other trials and tribulations in her young life. Here’s the thing: she doesn’t have insurance. Florida doesn’t appear to have a health back-up plan like our AHCCS so she’s going to end up footing the bill for likely hundreds of thousands of dollars. She’s already been in the hospital (two actually) for almost a month.
So I’m asking you, and I’ve never really asked anything of you guys before. If you can would you please go HERE and donate what you can to help her out.
Please.
I will be as soon as payday comes around next week. There’s not much else I can do.
Please.
Spam Spam SPAM!
Feb 21st
I have this blog set up so I can peruse the spam before it deletes and occasionally I come across one that’s kind of interesting. For instance:
I don’t write a comment, but after browsing a few of the comments on TechPhx Kickoff Meeting! | Telling it like I see it. I actually do have a few questions for you if it’s allright. Is it simply me or does it look like like some of the comments appear as if they are left by brain dead visitors?
And, if you are writing on other places, I would like to follow you. Could you list of the complete urls of your shared pages like your Facebook page, twitter feed, or linkedin profile?
Grammar aside, this cracked me up. First, this is a spam comment on this post and you’ll notice there are NO COMMENTS at all much less any from brain dead visitors – unless you count the 5 spammers on that post. Like saying shit about the other people here will, you know, make me want to check out your link?
Secondly, my facebook, twitter, AND linkedin are linked right on my blog page, dumbass.
7,522 Loser spammers at this time. Why can’t these idiots get a real job?
WordPress Fail
Feb 16th
I don’t begin to understand all the nifty things you can do with WordPress. I mean, I managed to put together this site by myself but that’s about it. I’ve attended WordCamps for years and it’s all mostly over my head.
I gave up on figuring out Google Analytics by myself. I just can’t seem to get it to work. I’m sure all my WP friends are rolling their eyes but I know what I know and I don’t know that. So I downloaded this WP-Statistics plug-in and let it run for a few days. According to that I’ve had 1271 hits today and 1433 yesterday. 
I’m really, really… really having a hard time believing that.
Apparently I have 1200+ people reading my blog every day and yet I get maybe one comment every third post.
C’mon people, speak up!
I’m not talking to myself here.
Speaking of WordCamps, I’m so impressed by the volume of information available at our Phoenix WordCamp (even though it’s all greek to me) that I’m volunteering there all day Saturday. That way someone who can get something out of it will be freed up to attend. Maybe I’ll pick up a pointer or two.
What tips the scales?
Feb 15th
Nowadays this question is more in our face than in the past.
When does a bad thing a person does outweigh the good they’ve done?
Just a few examples:
Michael Jackson was one of THE most talented singer/songwriter/dancers in the world. People either loved his music or at the very least respected his talent. But as tales of his bizarre behavior and then allegations of child molestation surfaced, opinions changed. Though I personally believe the allegations, I still believe he was an incredible talent that opened the door for so many changes in dance and music.
The Penn State coaching staff that was apparently (I know diddly about sports) beloved by their community but then basically covered up for a child molester by not reporting it.
Whitney Houston with a voice like an angel (if I believed in angels, that is) still gives me goosebumps whenever I hear her recordings, chose to destroy that voice – and ultimately her life – through years of drug abuse.
Some Chris guy beats the shit out of his girlfriend last year but this year receives two Grammys. Another celebrity athlete is found involved in dog fighting – goes to prison – and now all is forgiven/forgotten. Mike Tyson is accused of beating and raping his wife, bites the ear off another fighter and yet now he’s acting in stupid comedies. Tiger Woods can’t keep his dick in his pants, which has nothing to do with his incredible ability to golf but has everything to do with publicly screwing over his wife. And will Charlie Sheen ever be taken seriously again? Probably.
I’m sure you can think of more examples. Child molesters, wife-beaters, rapists, drug addicts, law-breakers of all sorts. Some are forever shunned and some are forgiven and continue on their merry way.
Why is that? When is a person forgiven for bad deeds? I honestly can’t say. Is it when the person sincerely admits to the wrongdoing and makes amends? Is it when a certain amount of time has passed? Is it when their talent is too good to let go of?
You can’t just write people off forever when they screw up. The dog-fighter sports guy has to my knowledge completely reformed. And look at Robert Downey Jr. He finally kicked the drug monster and came out on top. People can change. Some. Child molesters, murderers, rapists… when you physically hurt someone else you should not be forgiven. That’s where I draw my line.
Here We Go Again
Feb 11th
Over and over I see the religious argument boiled down to this simple trite:
Atheists don’t believe in anything!
An Atheist is simply someone who doesn’t believe in any gods. That’s it.
And I certainly do believe in many things.
I believe in personal responsibility. If you choose to screw up, you take responsibility. You don’t blame it on the devil or the voices in your head. Conversely, if you choose to work hard, you take the credit. Sure, some people have natural talents in a certain direction, but if you’re working it and things pan out, it’s because of that not some supernatural force.
I believe in honesty. You tell the truth no matter what. You don’t go along with the crowd if you don’t agree. You stand up for what you believe in and not let others shut you up.
I believe in personal freedom. As long as you’re an adult and what you choose to do doesn’t hurt anyone else, you are entitled. You can do what you want with your body, you can do what you want in your bed, you can believe whatever myth you want. Live and let live as long as nobody is getting hurt.
I believe in science. The best thing about science is honesty. If it’s real science it’s repeatable, testable, and provable. If someone makes a claim, others can take their research and prove it again. Peer review is a wonderful thing. We know the earth is millions of years old. We know all 600 dog breeds can be traced back to one original type of canine. We know humans and apes had a common ancestor, not that monkeys suddenly turned into humans.
I believe in respecting our planet. Whether you buy global climate change or not really doesn’t matter. Using oil destroys the planet. Using up the rain forests destroys the planet. Dumping shit into our water destroys the planet. We should really stop doing that.
I believe in protecting the innocents. Children should always be protected. They should have education and health care. They should be raised by someone who loves them. The elderly and disabled should not have to worry about living on the street.
I believe in equality. What makes one person doing the same thing as another wrong? Nothing. Then they should have equal pay and equal rights.
I could continue listing my beliefs but I think you get the point. I’m a decent human being and I pretty much follow the rules set down by society though I object when the rules are out-dated or unfair. It’s unfair to deny LGBT people equal rights. It’s unfair to force a woman to incubate a child she doesn’t want. It’s unfair to risk other children because you believe some bullshit about vaccinations. It’s unfair that not everyone has basic health care. It’s unfair that some righteous holier-than-thou big mouths can control the decision making for everyone else.
I’m Debbie Walker and I’m an Atheist – among other things.
My 4th Divorciversary
Feb 10th
Brings on much introspection.
I’m so much happier. I feel like a more complete person than I have in years. I have peace within myself, I have financial stability, I volunteer much of my time, I have a great bunch of kids that I’m really close with, and I bought myself a brand-spankin’ new HDTV and a pretty cabinet to set it on.
But I have this constant nagging thought that my kids should have some sort of relationship with their father. I periodically suggest to one or the other that they should make contact. He should have some relationship with his granddaughter but Casey’s not interested. Max’s wife would like to meet Buck but Max has no desire to have that happen. Ginnie, well she has her own reasons not to. I really had no idea back when I was married that the kids were already so estranged from their father. How could I not notice? None of them want anything to do with him. Maybe I’ve painted him badly here but he really wasn’t a bad person. Just set in his ways and distant. Sort of anti-social. It was only in the last few years that the drinking (and the personal shit that went with it) got too bad for me to tolerate.
So… is it just because of some old-fashioned blood-is-thicker-than-water reasoning that I keep pushing this? I mean, I still maintain a relationship with my mother and I don’t even like her. Or maybe deep down I’m just proving to myself that it’s not my fault they’ve chosen to cut him off. My issues with him shouldn’t be their issues but apparently they have issues of their own.
Whatever, I wish I could let it go. I’ve always thought that blood didn’t mean anything to me but that’s not how I act. I wish I did. Maybe it’s too ingrained by society.
Other than that I’m doing great.
TechPhx Kickoff Meeting!
Feb 7th
You remember we changed the name of PodcampAZ to TechPhx, right? We’re still working on the website, but you can like TechPhx on Facebook to keep up with all the latest info. We’re still going to cover all the awesome topics, and have all the awesome panels it did before, and the types of sessions at TechPhx are not changing, and we’re keeping with our unconference theme. Plus, we do have some new ideas we’d like to incorporate into this years’ conference. We don’t want to reveal it all now- but what it involves is a way to spotlight all the great things the valley has to offer. And there are a ton of great groups, gatherings, and conferences in the valley. However, we need your help to do it.
Saturday, February 11th. 10:00 am, Room 203, at the University of Advancing Technology (where last year’s conference was held) we are holding our kick-off planning meeting. We are especially making an appeal to those who run other conferences, camps, and clubs during the year in the valley. You know, Ignite, Social Media Club, WordCamp, EPublish Unum… etc. All we need are one or two representatives to come out and hear what our big idea is. We think you’ll like it.
Of course beyond that, anyone and everyone is invited to get involved with this year’s TechPhx. Something you loved last year? Help us make it better. Something you didn’t love so much? Help us make it better. It’s everyone’s conference, and the more involvement we get, the better it gets! Let’s all help make TechPhx grow!
RSVP Here! We will see you on the 11th!
…and then again…
Feb 3rd
First read my last post if you haven’t yet.
Then I see this article. Go ahead, go skim it. Or just know Susan G Komen has also defunded stem cell research. $15 million.
Now I want to know where the money IS going. They take in millions in donations “for the cure” so where exactly is that money going?
After a really quick look on their website I see lots of research grants and stuff. Well, fine.
It really seems to me this supposedly bipartisan foundation is seriously leaning in the right (or in my opinion, wrong) direction.
They want to stop giving money to Planned Parenthood because 3% of PP services are abortions.
They stopped funding stem-cell research because The Right is against it.
What’s next? Are they going to stop helping lesbian breast cancer patients because the God people think whatever happens to the gays is deserved?
Single mothers because they’re not pure? Atheists? Muslims?
I guess I am jumping on the bandwagon after all.
Social media wins again?
Feb 3rd
I’m telling you, if you don’t get the power of social media today you need to get out more.
Not only did the Internet rally when legislation came up that would put anyone at risk of losing their websites with no notice and no real recourse…
Over the last few days the Susan G Komen Foundation’s foundation had some serious cracks. On Tuesday social media was rampant with the news Komen would not donate to Planned Parenthood anymore. The comments I read said it was because Karen Handel is rabid anti-choice. You can look this all up on Google. Then BAM! BACKLASH! People everywhere were PISSED! It was like Komen suddenly had the worst cooties from hell. Groups are dropping them like flies. Support for “the cause” takes a drastic hit. The founder of SGK Nancy Brinker goes on youtube and tries to explain some bullshit about it not being political (anti-abortion) but because PP doesn’t actually do mammograms – they farm them out – which is against their new internal guidelines. Whatever. That’s not the answer the people want to hear. Anyway, as of today Komen has reversed their decision. I’m guessing this too late change of plans won’t repair their big mistake. And PP has received more donations in the ensuing days than they normally get from SGK anyway. SGK may or may not recover.
Yes, I was pissed. Yes I posted a few tweets to @Komenforthecure. But I didn’t go off as expected (nodding at you @TSDivaDani) because I recognized this bandwagon before I jumped. I read a shitload of blogs and watched numerous videos and every one of them had a slightly different fact base. What was the real story? SGK was painted by a HUGE paintbrush as the evil without really getting to defend themselves and now anything they say sounds like bullshit. Is this foundation coming out officially as anti-choice or was it just a poorly thought out policy change? If it’s the first then they need to stand up and stand by their decision and take the lumps. Are they so sure of their pink-ribbon everybody loves SGK that they could just do whatever they want with the money people entrust to them? Or did we pro-choice people just bully them into reversing their decision? Are we really bullying or just forcefully stating our opinions?
Here’s what I get out of it for sure. Anti-choice people may be loud in their self-righteousness but when it comes right down to it, the Internet is decidedly pro-women’s rights and especially pro-choice.
Maybe people should donate to their own choices instead of these clearinghouses? Yeah.
Stupid Cats
Feb 1st
I picked Kira up from school Monday and stopped by their house to get a clean uniform for school the next day. On the way there we had an involved conversation about Aunt ‘Rinda’s stupid mean horrible pregnant cat. Kira thinks this pure white cat is going to have lots of colored babies. She’s hoping (eeek) that it has 12 babies and she wants the black one.
Well, I tried to explain about how the colors thing works and, though I know exactly nada about cats, how with it being her first litter she probably wouldn’t have 12 babies. Maybe four or five. And that likely they all wouldn’t, you know, live. Not to mention they really didn’t need to keep anymore cats (they have two) and maybe Daddy wouldn’t let her keep one.
So we get to the house and take the uniform from ‘Rinda’s boyfriend whose name I can never remember… something starting with a B. As we’re leaving Kira spots a couple of neighborhood cats “wrestling”. The one on top is this vague mud colored fella so I’m guessing the upcoming kitties will be a variety of mud and white. There’s usually only one stray male around in any one area, right? Aren’t they territorial?
Just what the world needs, more cats. Blech. If you want to have a cat, get it fixed. Especially if you let it wander around outside.
