When I was younger if a woman liked sex and had a lot of it men were quick to label her a nympho as if having a healthy sex drive needed some sort of mental illness diagnosis. There’s always been that double-standard I never understood. Men were encouraged to follow their natural inclination (as long as it was hetero of course) but if a woman did she was aberrant. So-called decent women called her a whore unless by some chance she acted as if she couldn’t control herself, then she was pitied and called a nympho though still looked down on.

The world turns and now there’s this new fake label. Married men who cat around on the side suddenly have this new diagnosis to call on. They can’t help themselves! They have a sex addiction! Instead of taking responsibility for their actions, they do this OH POOR ME bullshit. Kobe, Duchovny, Charlie Sheen – the sex addiction diagnosis excuse was made for rich fuckers to let them off the hook.

I didn’t really care about Tiger’s infidelities. That’s between him and his wife. Okay, the shear amount of women might be gossip-worthy but it was never a News story. I figure eventually Tiger’s sex life will be a joke and his golf career will be back on track. Maybe his endorsements will suffer which in my mind is wrong. I’m tired of people dictating what other people’s morals should be but that’s not the focus of this post.

What impressed me most, and makes me believe that he should be… excused… not really the word I want but it’ll do for now – is his apology. He takes responsibility for his behavior. He never once mentions being out of control or not being able to reign himself in. He felt entitled – which is understandable considering his life. Hopefully it’s all sincere. Hopefully for his wife they can come to an understanding for their children. I certainly wouldn’t take him back, but that’s me.

And I really liked his chiding the paparazzi about harassing his family. I completely agree with him. Any photographer who chases a child should die a painful death. Any stupid person who gives money to those who pay the paparazzi should lose all their belongings to a freak tornado.

Seriously, why is the sex life of someone you’re not married/committed to so important to other people?

It’s all about choice. The spouse has no choice, the child has no choice, but if someone chooses to plow the field they should accept responsibility for what comes up and that should stay between him/her and the people who they betray.

But if you’re not in a relationship, if there is nobody to betray – whats wrong with having sex with as many people as you want? So what?