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Archive for October, 2009
Over your dead body
Oct 6th
I know I’m always putting it out there that I’d like a… companion, partner, romp, date, etc. But every girl has to have her standards, right? It seems like the only men who try to hit on me are of the um, er, unfortunately unblessed variety. There’s one man in our social group who creeps out everyone not just me, that hints he’d like to get together. There’s also another person I see very occasionally that has also hit on me in the past, even before he started broadcasting his kinky proclivities. These people I can be polite/civil to and keep up the social thing and not hurt anyone’s feelings. Because if I were to open my mouth and tell them what I really think, well I wouldn’t be all that nice about it.
But Casey has this friend I’m about to lose my patience with. There’s this teasing thing amongst most of his friends, we flirt with each other in front of Casey just to make him uncomfortable. It’s fun and it’s ALL in fun, right? Except this guy:
yuk
This is his going to a child’s birthday outfit. Yes, that’s a beer can in his hand. He brought his own. His usual outfit is this type of shirt in yellow or orange, and *shudder* shorts even shorter in other washed out colors.
You ladies are squirming right now?
The other night I was at Casey’s for dinner and he showed up. My twitter comments show the feelings I couldn’t say out loud:
- Crap, yet another guest arrives. SkinCrawl makes me want to barf. I’m hiding in the bedroom. I need a smoke! NO! #
- 18:59 Stop talking to me! I’d rather take a hot poker up the ass than be polite to you, ya freak! #
- 19:06 He asks what I’m texting. Truth? How vile and disgusting you are. Politer answer: Nuttin.
So at Kira’s birthday party someone asked me if I wanted a piece of cake and I said no, then this guy sidles up to me, actually wiggles his eyebrows and said, “You want a piece of this? And I’m not talking about the cake.”
AAAAarrrrrrrgggggh. No thank you.
Alright nicer people than me, how does one turn aside unwanted attention without being too disruptive to the group status quo? Not that I think I’m so much better than anyone else, don’t you know. But if someone makes your flesh crawl?
I forgot to mention his name is Buck.
Volunteer Commitments
Oct 4th
Not to pick on anyone specific right now, but I’m fed up with people committing to a project and then letting it drop. Just because you’re not getting paid for it, that doesn’t mean it isn’t worth doing.
It happens time after time, your group has a need or even just a little wish and someone steps up all gung ho and says, “I can do that!” Aaaaaand you go along and they hedge, or promise more later, or flat out disappear with a wisp of smoke and you’re left standing with nothing. And most of the time you’re depending on THAT whatever to combine with someone else’s whatever to get a great final project that will now fail miserably leaving you looking like shit.
I’ve done volunteer work for years. From Cub Scouts to Girl Scouts, PTO to classroom helper, even putting out a school yearbook by myself for 5 years. As far as I can recall, once I committed to something I never failed. I don’t remember ever leaving someone in the lurch, and if I couldn’t do what I promised I would, I would ask for help as soon as possible. I won’t list here how many other people over the years promised me they would do something and then dropped the ball. Then waited so long to fess up that I couldn’t get someone else to do it. DEADLINES, we all has them.
What the hell is wrong with people? You think just because you’re not getting paid that it’s not as important as a paying gig? Then DON’T VOLUNTEER! Don’t commit to designing that program, or making that sign, or finding the perfect sponsor if you can’t do it. Or if you have committed and something comes up – TELL SOMEONE IMMEDIATELY so they can pass it along to someone else! I’m sick of watching these wonderful people I work with expecting follow-through and not getting it. We all start out with high hopes for this or that and then it all trickles down to what we can pull together at the end, because so many people drop out before they’re done.
It’s not the failing that makes you look bad, it’s the screwing people over. Because every time you make a commitment and then devalue it to justify dumping on people, they remember. And they’ll remember you when it’s time for the work that does pay. How do you want to be remembered?
This one is for McGruffle
Oct 1st
