so don't ask if you don't want to know
Over your dead body
I know I’m always putting it out there that I’d like a… companion, partner, romp, date, etc. But every girl has to have her standards, right? It seems like the only men who try to hit on me are of the um, er, unfortunately unblessed variety. There’s one man in our social group who creeps out everyone not just me, that hints he’d like to get together. There’s also another person I see very occasionally that has also hit on me in the past, even before he started broadcasting his kinky proclivities. These people I can be polite/civil to and keep up the social thing and not hurt anyone’s feelings. Because if I were to open my mouth and tell them what I really think, well I wouldn’t be all that nice about it.
But Casey has this friend I’m about to lose my patience with. There’s this teasing thing amongst most of his friends, we flirt with each other in front of Casey just to make him uncomfortable. It’s fun and it’s ALL in fun, right? Except this guy:

yuk
This is his going to a child’s birthday outfit. Yes, that’s a beer can in his hand. He brought his own. His usual outfit is this type of shirt in yellow or orange, and *shudder* shorts even shorter in other washed out colors.
You ladies are squirming right now?
The other night I was at Casey’s for dinner and he showed up. My twitter comments show the feelings I couldn’t say out loud:
- Crap, yet another guest arrives. SkinCrawl makes me want to barf. I’m hiding in the bedroom. I need a smoke! NO! #
- 18:59 Stop talking to me! I’d rather take a hot poker up the ass than be polite to you, ya freak! #
- 19:06 He asks what I’m texting. Truth? How vile and disgusting you are. Politer answer: Nuttin.
So at Kira’s birthday party someone asked me if I wanted a piece of cake and I said no, then this guy sidles up to me, actually wiggles his eyebrows and said, “You want a piece of this? And I’m not talking about the cake.”
AAAAarrrrrrrgggggh. No thank you.
Alright nicer people than me, how does one turn aside unwanted attention without being too disruptive to the group status quo? Not that I think I’m so much better than anyone else, don’t you know. But if someone makes your flesh crawl?
I forgot to mention his name is Buck.
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about 2 years ago
Tell him you’ve started seeing someone from the Niagra Falls area… :p
Ask him if _____(some other guy you both know) is seeing anyone.
Tell him you’ve switched teams and no longer drive stick-shift :p
Wait till he’s around to have detailed conversations about unsightly womanly business.
about 2 years ago
OK, so you don’t like socially clueless, fashion-inhibited, beer-swilling fat people. Got it. why not just say so to his face? “Polite” in this case may be hurting you more than honesty.
I guess my question is “Who *is* acceptable?” Obviously Antonio Banderas, but what about Fred Schmoe, Average Guy?
about 2 years ago
1. Someone who doesn’t bring beer to a 3 year old’s birthday party.
2. Someone who showers on a regular basis.
3. Someone who wears actual clothing out in public. Clothing that covers unattractive parts of the body. Can we all agree that the belly hanging out under a shirt is a universal no-no? How about showing hairy ass-crack, can we all agree that’s unacceptable?
4. Someone who, if you don’t take him up on his not-so-subtle hit hint the first couple of times, doesn’t keep trying.
5. Someone who doesn’t still live with his mother unless she needs him as a caretaker and not vice-versa.
If Fred Schmoe was clean, funny, smart, and most importantly didn’t LITERALLY make my skin crawl (which I have no control over) I’d pay attention. Finding someone creepy and disgusting is an instinctual thing. Looks, other than overall neatness, isn’t a big criteria. To be confident and at ease in social situations is a must.
about 2 years ago
F-a-n-t-a-s-t-i-c.
about 2 years ago
For instance, I’d do Justin in a minute if he didn’t have that most pesky thing… a wife.