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Archive for February, 2009
Why you should be on twitter
Feb 9th
My play-by-play of the Grammy Awards last night:
Seriously, see the fun you missed? And this doesn’t show the people talking back to me. We were having such fun.
Jesus H Pizza Crust
Feb 8th
You know my curiosity got the better of me. I’d blocked the mindless twit from yesterday. But after responding to that comment from my friend Brad, I sent the link to the impostor posting as LovingGod. I say impostor because:
A. I don’t believe there is a God.
B. Even if it turns out there is one, she certainly isn’t posting on twitter.
So yeah, today I clicked back over to the guy’s twitter page and found these posts to me. Cuz I’ve blocked him I didn’t get them through my twhirl and hopefully neither did anyone else I know. What a jerk!
@spellwight Apologies, but atheists all at least become agnostics right before death. You may hate me but I still love you.
Can I hate the clueless person using twitterberry? Oh yes! More and more each moment. Can I hate the so-called Loving God? Can’t hate what you don’t believe even exists. And could you maybe prove that little last-minute conversion theory of yours?
@spellwight I read the complete authorship. I am saddened by the circumstances. I will always be with you.
Can you say obtuse? Some people.
| Originally published at Spellwight. |
Don't Divorce Them
Feb 8th
“Fidelity”: Don’t Divorce… from Courage Campaign on Vimeo.
How can anyone look at the faces in this video and all of that happiness and deny these people the same rights as everyone else? What the hell is wrong with you haters? And don’t give me benign political or business reasons to be against gay marriage, that’s bullshit. You’re either a supporter or you’re a hater. There IS no grey area, there is no justification.
Period.
| Originally published at Spellwight. |
Show some respect
Feb 7th
God this pissed me off. So much so that more than four hours later I’m still fired up. I posted this on twitter this morning:
Today is the 1st anniversary of my divorce. What a great year.
To which many of my friends appropriately replied:
ladawn @spellwight Happy Divorciversary! You should do something to celebrate.
Kinchie @spellwight That’s an anniversary worth celebrating! Get yourself a cupcake!!
twinklergirl
@spellwight Would that be a Happy Unniversary?
and then this one:
LovingGod @spellwight I am sorry and will always be with you wherever you are.
What. The. Fuck.
Dear anonymous little fart,
Show some respect. Show respect to the people you talk to. If you’d taken one second to click on my name and glance at my profile, you would have seen Atheist in my bio. Maybe then you would have realized that your trite little meaningless comment would NOT be appreciated and would in fact, fuck up a very nice celebratory day.
I have enough respect for people of your ilk to not enter your space and preach how I feel about your lifestyle choices. I don’t proselytize Darwin on your websites. I don’t specifically send messages to you trashing your belief system. I don’t knock on doors on the off-chance someone might choose to come out of the dark ages based on my teachings and by-the-way give me lemonade.
I certainly don’t take it upon myself to open a twitter account in the name of God and proceed to send happy happy joy joy comments to all and sunder. Just how condescending can one person be? If you do believe in God shouldn’t you be afraid he’s gonna strike you down? Talk about disrespecting even your own people! And how did you find my comment to reply to in the first place? Some keyword search on twitter just so you can spit out lame trite meaningless replies? Who are you?
I post Atheist in all the obvious places. I snark about you people here in my blog. I have a plastic all-weather keep away sign on my front door so I don’t have to slam the door in your faces. I politely delete the well-meaning emails from family members who can’t take the hint that I still care ab0ut them and they should care enough about me to RESPECT my feelings.
Why do some of you feel you need to change the rest of us? Seriously? I’m perfectly happy the way I am. No God to blame things on or give all the credit to. No poorly written manual to base my every decision upon so that I don’t have to take responsibility for my own actions.
Maybe I should start preaching my beliefs. Maybe I should start knocking on doors and start a Church of Accepting Responsibility. We’ll put up totems and light candles and pray for the common sense that everyone convert. I’ll be a prophet! Everyone will wear tie-died hemp robes and carry recycle cans for collection bins and force our neighbors to put up solar panels and we’ll outlaw ties and high heeled shoes. Churches should be converted to homeless shelters and all anti-abortion activists should be required to adopt at least 4 children before they’re allowed to protest. Priests and Ministers should be branded with an L on their foreheads for LIARS and sent to clean subway stations.
Yeah, you people wouldn’t appreciate that at all, would you? So show some respect and I’ll leave you alone, deal?
Good riddance,
Debbie
| Originally published at Spellwight. |
Fucktard is at it again
Feb 7th
Sure, this is a third person conversation half-assed and likely misquoted from GirlChild this morning. My ad-ibs in green.
After discussing the car use needs between us…
G: And Papa says he’ll pick me up here at 7:00 (so they can go play pool together – the first time he’s EVER asked her to go do anything with him). He doesn’t want to ‘run into’ you (she fingered air quotes) so he suggested I send you out somewhere. And I told him it was your house and you’d probably be home. He said something about you not wanting to see him either (true dat) so maybe you might.
Me: *snort* Fuck him, I’ll stand on the patio and wave.
G: Ha. Oh, and he asked me if Vickie could come with us cuz I need to get to know her better cuz she’s going to be around for a long time. I said (she rolled her eyes) fine and he asked me (something about driving versus being picked up I forget how she phrased it) and I told him Corey could drive me if he was also invited. Papa said no (she’s sneering like he would) he didn’t want that kid anywhere around and I wanted to say right back to him “you need to get to know him better cuz he’s going to be around for a long time.”
This is why I love my kid so much. Now if she could just SAY that to her father, but she’s just trying to maintain some sort of communication with him and doesn’t want to rock the boat. I’m planning a “don’t take any shit from either of them” pep talk before they pick her up tonight.
Dammit he’s such an ass! I had a dream last night that included him somehow borrowing my shower and I went to put something in his duffel bag, and it was full of guns and money rolls like duct tape rolls. I grabbed a roll of money and waved it at him and hollered CHILD SUPPORT and then woke up before he could answer. Weird. Would it be worth a roll of money to let him in to borrow my shower? Still debating that one.
Today is the 1st anniversary of our final divorce date. Although I left him August 1st, 2007 our divorce wasn’t finalized until the following February. Boy has it been a freeing and happy year in so many ways. Sure I haven’t found anyone else to pass the time, but being alone isn’t as bad as you’d think. The only bad part is the lack of money but that will get better soon. I get out of this apartment in August and that should cut my rent by a third and my new car payment is another third better than the last one. I even have car insurance now.
And for the most part, I’m so much happier. I didn’t realize how bad it was til I wasn’t there anymore.
Oh, and I got a message from Max yesterday. An unfamiliar phone number so I didn’t answer and I missed his call but he says he’ll call back today. At least I heard his voice. He said they’ve been busy, they’re moving them again, and that he’s fine and sorry it took so long to call.
| Originally published at Spellwight. |
Critters big and small
Feb 5th
I’ve never made any secret of the fact that I’m not a fan of most pets. We’ve had a variety of dogs, turtles, mice, gerbils, guinea pigs, and fish and that snake and I’ve been tolerant. Oh, and now she’s caring for someone else’s bearded dragon.
Tolerant.
No cats – I hate cats. Cats are creepy and nasty plus I’m highly allergic. And it’s funny how cat people don’t have a clue. “Oh my cat stays in the other room when people are here.” Uh, no it doesn’t. “My cat never jumps up on the counter/furniture/strangers” except when I’m there of course. And it’s not just the cat, it’s the hair and dander . . . and the smell. Some cat people don’t smell their houses. I may love you to death, but I won’t be back to your house. Sorry. There’s no nice way to say it. I need to breathe more than I need to tolerate your cat. Although, I must say I can actually tolerate some cat people’s houses better than others. I don’t know why. I don’t know why house A sucks the air right out of my chest while house B only slowly causes a bit of tightening. It’s a pay-as-you-go thing.
And rabbits too BTW.
Girlchild can’t wait til she can afford to get horses. She wants a bunch of them. Some big dream about someday having a ranch where she can care for bunches of unwanted pets and horses. She’s went through some training about horse care through girl scouts and thinks it’s no big deal. And no matter what I say – because I know very little about horses – I can’t convince her how much work it is. You have to really be invested in being horse people.
I have a few horse people on my LJ flist and currently they all seem to be experience huge and expensive issues with one or more of their horses. I’m almost tempted to force the kid to sit and read these journals so she gets a bigger clue how much of a commitment having horses can be. Oh I’m sure the rewards are worth it for some people, but you have to cringe whenever a newbie tries to get into the game. I’m also sure it has to be something you’re raised doing – most of the time. Maybe we can hope she meets a good man with horse raising experience.
One of the best parts of my own dreams is NO PETS. Once the kid and her zoo are gone I’m never going to have a pet again. Well, maybe a well behaved small wiener dog when I’m officially elderly but I’m so looking forward to not having anything or anyone but myself to care for.
Not to say that I don’t feel for people who do care for their animals. I feel bad that this one had to be put down and that one will soon and that their people have to go through it. At least someone cares about this or that creature and the animal knew it. I don’t want to mistreat animals, I just don’t want them around me.
| Originally published at Spellwight. |
The Light Rail
Feb 4th
Last night was only the second time I’ve used the light rail. The first time I was a little distracted by this event to really pay attention to the actual trains.
Hopefully someday the rail will extend further into the rest of Mesa but right now it’s barely at the west end. I went to the park and ride at the first Mesa station. The entire front lot closest to the station was closed. Empty and closed. Dunno why. So I’m already crabby about having to walk clear across an empty parking lot to get to the train because I know I’ll be walking back alone much later that night.
The ticket buying process was confusing and difficult. Kiosks you can walk right past and take your chances getting caught, because the rail cops only check every 5th train or so to see if people even have tickets. The kiosks have a bunch of steps to buying your ticket, wouldn’t take cash, have 4 different and not-well-labeled slots to put things in or take things out of and the whole “activation” process is frakked.
In Atlanta and Vegas (the other places I’ve recently ridden city rails) you buy tickets and then go through a counter. In Atlanta you have to buy the initial plastic card and load it up like a debit card and it deducts your fare as you go through the gates/counters. Vegas had paper cards similar to ours but you still had to go through a counter to prove you’d paid. Here, the stations are open-air and you can just walk right on. No security at the stations and no counter or gating system at all. I watched people who’ve never used it walk right past the ATM looking kiosks and not understand how to pay.
I sat in the middle of the train where the bike racks are and watched as some dweeb struggled to hang up his bike next to one already jammed in instead of right across the aisle where the rack was empty. Yeah, you’re supposed to hang up your bike by the front tire. I will never be taking my non-existent bike on the train. He hadn’t noticed the machines and ended up asking other passengers how to pay for his ride.
The train sure seems loud and clunky for being electric. Clean, but then again the whole system has only been operating for a month. And the announcement woman sounds like her recording was cut off mid-sentence. “Exit to left, dumbass.” Fortunately the station in downtown Tempe was only a block away from my meetup.
The ride back was about the same. Loud and clicky. I exited the train and walked past the still-empty front parking lot to the back one where my and only three other cars were. I seriously didn’t like that part. That station isn’t in the best part of Mesa to begin with and there weren’t a lot of people around.
And no bathrooms. Not that I would have used one at the end-of-the-line station there late at night.
There needs to be more obvious signage on how to pay for your ride. When the train is sitting there and you’re in a hurry and there are people in line behind you, you don’t need a machine you can’t easily figure out. There are too many steps. I’m sure if I lived in Tempe or Phoenix, I’d pop on and off the light rail whenever it was convenient to my destination and I’d be really annoyed if I had to go through that ticketing process all the time. I prefer cash and I couldn’t use it. It seems stupid and pointless to use a credit/debit card to buy a one-day pass, and the diagram as to how to enter your card wasn’t like any one I’d ever seen before and couldn’t decipher. I ended up shoving my card in every which way until it worked. Get a standard diagram, rail people.
There needs to be more security. I’m pretty sure once most riders figure out they’re seldom checked, they ain’t paying anymore. If I rode it all the time, I’d probably blow off paying myself. I never saw anyone who looked like security. And that’s weird especially since the first time I rode it they were aware there would be a large group of pantsless people riding. You’d think they’d have security around to make sure that went okay. I didn’t see any either time.
I’ll probably use it again. I don’t like trying to find parking in downtown Tempe so it’s better for that. Except the trains stop running at midnight so if I want to stay out later than that forget it. And it goes right through downtown Phoenix too so next time I’m on jury duty or need the civic center or something I’ll think about the rail. Unfortunately the nearest stop to the VA hospital is just far enough there’s no way I could walk that, especially in summer in AZ. Oh well, can’t win ‘em all.
| Originally published at Spellwight. |
For instance, why am I up at 5 am?
Feb 4th
Last night was fun! I went to a tweetup in Tempe hosted by @raillife and met a bunch of new people plus partied with a few I already knew.
One woman, who I’ll call @brendalong cuz that’s her name, is quickly becoming my new twitter best friend. She’s hilarious! Kind of like @ladawn but lives closer. I met @ninky last night and she’s great, too. A bunch of us – well okay, four of us – ended up at Rula Bula (yay Strongbow) after the tweetup and had dinner and drinks (yay Strongbow ON TAP) and great conversation before I stumbled back to the light rail to take the train back to my car.
Where I dozed in my car for um, quite a while before I felt I could drive the rest of the way. That second Strongbow snuck right up on me.
I came home and watched Idol and deleted a bunch of Gullah Gullahs. DVR had popped up a notice that it was FULL and I can’t have that! I went to bed well after midnight and yet POW! wide awake at 4:38 and can’t get back to sleep. And now I’m HUNGRY. Go figure.
| Originally published at Spellwight. |
A rose by any other name
Feb 2nd
I actually stole this from Facebook. I really don’t want Facebook to turn into Myspace with all this crap clogging it up. Maybe by steering this over into my personal space it will encourage people to NOT put a bunch of crap there.
1. YOUR REAL NAME:
Debra Walker
2. WITNESS PROTECTION NAME: (mother and fathers middle names)
Jean Earl
3. NASCAR NAME: (first name of your mother’s dad, father’s dad)
Vail Albert (guess at father’s dad’s name, he died when I was a baby but I think that’s what it was)
4. STAR WARS NAME: (the first 3 letters of your last name, first 2 letters of your first name)
Walde
5. DETECTIVE NAME: (favorite color, favorite animal)
Brown Manatee
6. SOAP OPERA NAME: (middle name, town where you were born)
Kay Flint
7. SUPERHERO NAME: (2nd fav color, fav drink, add “THE” to the beginning)
The Rust Strongbow
8.FLY NAME: (first 2 letters of 1st name, last 2 letters of your last name)
Deer
9. STREET NAME: (fav ice cream flavor, fav cookie)
Chocolate Peanut Butter
10. PORN NAME: (1st pet’s name, street you grew up on)
Opium Coldwater
11. YOUR GANGSTA NAME: (first 3 letters of last name plus izzle)
Walizzle
13. YOUR IRAQI.. NAME: (2nd letter of your first name, 3rd letter of your last name, first two letters of your middle name, last two letters of your first name then last three letters of your last name):
Elkaraker
14. YOUR GOTH NAME: (black, and the name of one of your pets)
Black Xena
15. STRIPPER NAME: (name of your fav perfume/cologne, fav candy)
Ciara Snickers
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