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An open letter to the father of my children
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU!!!!????!!!!!
Dude, you’re screwing this up.
Shall I go back to your only granddaughter’s birthday party you didn’t bother to attend?
Or that your daughter wanted to spend some time with you on her 18th birthday and you were too busy? The whole fucking weekend? And then you send her a birthday card in the goddamn mail. A birthday card. You live less than 5 miles away and you couldn’t be bothered to make time for her?
SHE WAS CRUSHED!
You know how sensitive she is. And yet you not only send a stupid card with an old dead $20 bill, you sign it from both you and your new girlfriend. Whom she’s barely met. The same woman you once put on the phone to berate your daughter for something that had nothing to do with her. Beyond tacky.
You can’t take the time to drop in to her work (do you even know where she works now?) or make a date or get together in some way?
I know you’re still bitter but you remember those classes we had to take (and you really should know this without a class) where they EMPHASIZED you don’t take your ex-spouse feelings out on your kids. EVER!
I don’t trash talk you to the kids, I do it elsewhere. Wish I could say the same for you. You want to know why they barely talk to you? Think about it. You’re doing this to yourself. I encourage them to call you, to try and make plans because it’s the right thing to do. But when you do bother to answer the phone, you’re either too busy to make a date or you trash me. Fucking get over it and try, TRY to be a father.
Do you even care your son is back in Iraq? Did you make any effort when he was here? Have you made any effort at ALL with any of them? And to keep trying, considering they barely had a relationship with you when we were together.
It’s not their place to make the effort. You’re their father. It’s your fucking JOB!
Well, I sure hope you’re enjoying whatever it is you are doing. It ain’t parenting.
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about 3 years ago
what IS his problem? It’s so fucked up – HE is the one acting all wronged and bitter when HE is the one who fucked it all up. And yet he acts like the world (and you and the kids) owes him.
What, exactly, does HE have to be bitter about?
about 3 years ago
This all sounds very familiar. My ex’s parenting style:
Christmas 2005 — he saw both kids, met them for supper at Olive Garden, waited for my son to pay the bill
summer 2006 — he saw my daughter for 2 hours before she left for Korea
Christmas 2006 — son was home from Florida for 10 days but he had no time to see him
Christmams 2007 — son home for 10 days, daughter home for 3 months, spoke to them on the phone once, e-mailed daughter once, had no time to see them
Christmas 2008 — both kids will be here, son for a week, daughter in US for a month, but my son is sick of the bullshit and has booked flight back to Orlando for a vacation for daughter and me, leaving “no time” for the asshole